Parents are one of the best lines of defense in stopping a bully.

While bullying is still a major topic in schools today with a reported 1 in 4 kids experiencing physical, mental or verbal attacks. Social media like Snapchat, Instagram and Twitch are bringing bullies off school property with cyberbullying.  Teachers, school staff and counselors are working to keep the bullies at bay but we need your help! If we all keep a watchful eye out for key warning signs, victims will have more opportunities to overcome.

Some warning signs are easier to spot like torn clothing or damaged books and personal belongings. There may be alarming bruises or cuts that your child has trouble explaining. But some are harder to navigate like mood changes or lack of appetite. Is my child just tired, or are they suffering? Look for one or a combination of the following:

1. Do they often find or make up excuses as to why they can’t go to school? This can also apply to getting to school by way of walking or riding the bus. For example: if your child takes a long out-of-the-way route when walking to or from school they may be showing signs of fear within their daily routine.
2. Are their grades starting to slip or have they lost interest in school work? If your child is battling a bully their focus can drift from school and it will start to reflect in their overall achievement.
3. Do they appear sad, anxious, teary, or depressed after school? Low Self-esteem and mood drops are often brought on by feeling helpless at the hands of a bully.
4. Do they seem sick often or complain of headaches, stomachaches or other physical ailments like trouble sleeping or frequent bad dreams? Stress can cause your child to feel run down, but some children will also express an illness in an effort to avoid interactions with their bullies.
5. Are their eating habits drastically changing? Whether you’re noticing a loss of appetite or binge eating, a quick shift in their diet can point to bigger disruptions in routine or health. They may not be eating during school hours or eating later in the day to avoid the group setting of the cafeteria.

If your child is exhibiting any of these signs, it’s important to talk to someone before they escalate. Many children can start to express dangerous and self-destructive behaviors such as running away or self-harm.

Looking for ways to talk with your child about bullying or how to ask school staff for help? More parent resources are available by contacting your local CHS.